DID YOU KNOW? 17% of Americans sleep in the nude.

Relationships & Sleep

Simple Steps for Sleeping with Someone

It’s no surprise that sleeping together is an important way for couples to feel connected. But while many partners can live together happily, sleeping side by side is a different story. The Better Sleep Council found that on average, one in three Americans say their partner’s sleep problems negatively impact their own quality of sleep. If your partner’s sleep style has you headed for a separate room, here are some tips that just might bring harmony back to the bedroom – and into your relationship.

Problem

Your partner kicks in his or her sleep, waking you up.

Solution

Make sure your mattress gives each person adequate room to sleep. If you are sharing a double (full-size) mattress, here’s a fact you might not know: that only gives each person as much room as sleeping in a crib! Couples should share a mattress no smaller than queen-size.

Problem

Your partner snores, keeping you up at night.

Solution

Because snoring can be part of a serious health issue, consult your physician first. If your partner’s snoring is run-of-the-mill, try investing in anti-snore pillows, sprays or nasal strips designed to help people breathe more easily. These products often alleviate the worst of the issue. And if your partner’s snoring persists, try foam earplugs before you try a different room.

Problem

Your partner tosses and turns.

Solution

It could be your mattress. If your mattress is uncomfortable, it can lead to restless sleep. Evaluate the comfort and support of your mattress every five to seven years to determine whether it’s the culprit.

Problem

Your partner loves to cuddle, but you like your space while you sleep.

Solution

Compromise. Before falling asleep, spend some time snuggling together – and then agree to sleep apart.

Problem

Your sleep schedules don’t match.

Solution

Try finding a bedtime that works for both of you. If your partner turns in early and you’re a night owl, try reading a book with a personal book lamp until you’re ready to nod off. If you’re an early riser compared to your sleep partner, be considerate when you awake. Keep overhead lights off and use minimal lighting while your partner is sleeping.

Problem

Your bedroom feels more like an office than a place to sleep.

Solution

Repeat after me: Your bedroom should only be used for sleep and sex. Keep work, laptops, phones and televisions out of the bedroom. This creates a much more relaxing – and romantic –atmosphere, and will give you both a better night’s sleep.

What if your partner likes it hot?

Bedroom temperature is a big issue in many relationships. Ideally, your bedroom should be a cool 60-65 degrees Fahrenheit. But if your partner prefers the heat, here are some simple adjustments:

  • Double-fold the blankets so there’s more coverage on one side
  • Invest in a dual-control electric blanket or a twin-size electric blanket for one side
About the Expert
Expert

Lissa Coffey, a lifestyle, relationship and wellness expert, is a spokesperson for several national brands, including the Better Sleep Council.  A successful author and broadcast journalist, Lissa has penned 12 books including the best-selling What's Your Dosha, Baby? Discover the Vedic Way for Compatibility in Life and Love – the only book ever written about Ayurveda and relationships. For more visit www.coffeytalk.com.

All About the Bed

You’ll spend 26+ years in your lifetime on your mattress.

Here’s how to make it a little bit more comfy.

LEARN ABOUT MATTRESSES

Find Your Fit

Decide what you like and dislike.

Then shop with confidence.

TAKE THE BETTER BED QUIZZZ

Starfish or Freefall

Your sleep position says a lot about your personality – and why you may have trouble sleeping.

SEE YOUR SLEEP POSITIONS